RHoNJ: Who’s the REAL Sociopath?

Since Dina & T-Man have NO qualms about throwing around Danielle insults, I wanted to post some common features of sociopathic behavior . Let’s see who REALLY may appear to be a sociopath, the Manzo MOB vs Danielle, shall we? 1 pt for each behavior and I did remove characteristics that apply to neither party, tyvm! 

  • Glibness and Superficial Charm: ALL of RHoNJ have this trait Manzo MOB – 2 vs. Danielle – 2
  • Manipulative and Conning: While I admit Danielle can be manipulative, I do believe the Manzo MOB may fit BOTH manipulative and conning….think of how Caroline and T-Man always attempt to make people choose between then and Danielle. Manzo MOB– 4  vs. Danielle – 3
  • Grandiose Sense of Self: Feels entitled to certain things as “their right.” Caroline Soprano ALL DAMN DAY LONG! She thinks she’s the Godfather to the point she probably shaves her face more than Al shaves his! Danielle only seems to accept certain inherent rights, such as receiving money from her daughter’s career….name me one parent who hasn’t made that statement? Manzo MOB – 5 vs. Danielle – 3.5
  • Pathological Lying: The Manzo Mob lied about  the circumstances surrounding the book and have repeatedly & maliciously continue to gossip & slander Danielle whenever possible. Most often, NONE of the Manzo Mob owns up to their lack of 411 and their ability to just lie 24/7. Regardless of Danielle’s past, wasn’t she upfront with US about THE BOOK in the very same episode T-Man exposed THE BOOK? 
    Cop Without a Badge

    The 1st unveiling of THE BOOK


    In addition, considering Danielle’s ex Maher WAS a police informant after being involved with drugs, escorts, kidnapping…why would ANYONE not see he’s a potential pathological liar for “passing” a lie detector test at Ciprani. No offense to the MANZO Mob, I have more faith in the shady human lie detectors on VH1 shows than Maher’s lie detector test at Cipriani. How much does Danielle REALLY lie about…other than the personal details of her past that she continuously puts up with? While Danielle does lie, I think Caroline and T-Man are TRULY pathological (and certifiable but that’s another post all together lol). Manzo MOB – 6 vs. Danielle – 4 

  • Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt: I have said this from the beginning – I’ve often found Danielle will do ANYTHING when attacked but can at least admit things, especially in her confessionals. I believe there is a fine line between “lack of” and just a “I don’t give a fuck anymore.” Case in point, Danielle may manipulate others outside the Manzo Mob for sympathy but have we ever really heard Danielle not express remorse, shame, or guilt over her actions? She may nto admit what the Manzo Mob wants to hear, but I have heard her admit her faults PLENTY of times, which is why I often see her as having to be on the defensive 24/7. I think we have all witnessed Caroline AND T-Man say and do things without one shred of remorse, shame, or guilt. We have seen Dina and Tacky Jacky ™ admit or express remorse, shame, or guilt over a certain action or comment while we see Danielle expressed remorse and guilt but not necessarily (always) shame. Maybe that’s what pisses the Manzo MOB off.. Manzo MOB – 7 vs. Danielle – 4
  • Shallow Emotions: When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises. Everything we have seen Danielle mention she would do on the show, she has done. I do not believe Danielle could have raised to decent girls if she DIDN’T have emotions. All this woman wanted was to be liked OR at least given a level of respect apparently the Manzo Mob is incapable of emotions such as sympathy or empathy. I think every breath Caroline Soprano takes serves an ulterior motive. Manzo MOB – 8 vs. Danielle – 4.5
  • Callousness/Lack of Empathy: Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others’ feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them. THE MANZO MOB ALL DAY LONG! Caroline & Teresa’s lack of empathy is kinda terrifying, no? But I can admit Danielle does come off as callous at times, whether it’s justified or not. Manzo MOB – 9 vs. Danielle – 5.5
  • Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature: Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others. While I truly do believe Danielle’s past history of abuse (and I do believe it, from personal experience some people really have no idea of the cycle of abuse when drugs are involved…i.e. why I never jumped “she kidnapped..got caught with 16 keys..etc) has resulted in her having extremely poor behavior controls, I think the later part of the this description describes Caroline Soprano & T-Man to a T! Don’t be friends with Danielle because it means you have went AGAINST Caroline, people! *insert eye roll here* Manzo MOB – 11 vs. Danielle – 6.5
  • Irresponsibility/Unreliability: Not concerned about wrecking others’ lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blames others, even for acts they obviously committed. I can say Caroline, T-Man, and Tacky Jacky ™ are irresponsible…technically Dina too, for the horrible and vicious “rumors” or things they say that clearly demonstrate that have NO concern of wrecking Danielle’s reputation as well as harming her girls. Danielle, on the other hand, could be viewed as unreliable due to her indifference; however, I do believe Danielle is not oblivious because she is often on the defensive and doesn’t necessarily justify her behavior as okay, rather justifies it has “this is my reaction to the Manzo’s for ____” Manzo MOB – 12 vs. Danielle – 7.5
  • Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity: Promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts. Danielle for promiscuity (although I think she’s just a cougar that needs to get laid lol she does strike me as someone who was abused and confuses affection and acceptance with sex)…but then again why should Danielle’s sexual behavior even MATTER to the Manzo Mob? Manzo MOB – 12 vs. Danielle – 8.5
  • Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility: Changes their image as needed to avoid prosecution. Changes life story readily. For obvious reasons, Danielle has this versatility…but to be honest I believe people that have a past that involve gangs/mobs, drugs, abuse, criminal informants, and felony charges often have to have this versatility in order to attempt to survive. Now the Manzo MOB often change their stories regularly, such as: where’s Tommy, what happened to Lexi, what did Danielle do that was so horrible they reacted as they did at the reunion, where did THE BOOK come from, who first introduced THE BOOK, the reason why there was so much dislike for Danielle in the first place, was Big Albert in the Mob and was his death a mob hit….I can go on and on. Let’s say this is even.

Final tally: Manzo MOB – 13 vs. Danielle – 9.5 

Now am I the crazy one here or is the Tanorexic Kellamity ™ (like it? just made it up and I kinda like it, tyvm) onto something with her “systematic bullying” crap? If anything, perhaps the Manzo MOB’s sheer size (in numbers) makes these things appear even worse….but why do so many think that the MOB’s actions are justifiable and Danielle’s are not? Clearly, throwing around a term such as “sociopath” exudes a lack of empathy, irresponsibility, poor behavior controls, manipulation, conning, AND glibness, no?  

And on that note, feel free to vote in my new poll (check out the right toolbar) …aptly entitled Who’s the REAL “Sociopath” of RHoNJ. Speaking of polls, I have now closed “Who is the craziest housewife?” and the results are in. Earning a whopping 72% of the vote, the winner is: 

Where the hell am I? What am I eating? SSSTTTOOOPPPPP!

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    • iwannabeanarchy
    • June 5th, 2010

    Not technically related to this post, but I know you’re going to love this if you don’t already know about it:

    I don’t know if you read the Housewives Bravo blogs, but I remember after the season premiere, on Danielle’s first blog she had alluded to this. I checked her blog again, and of course her reference to this has since been removed.

  1. Yeah, I definetly agree with you that Danielle isn’t a sociopath.
    A sociopath has ZERO emotion and Danielle has shown a lot of emotion during the series.

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